How To Pay Off Debt Once And For All

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Do you dream of becoming debt free? This post by Jennifer explains how she and her family got out of debt for good, and how you can too. Jennifer blogs at Mamafurfur – helping people create their dream life by achieving financial freedom.


How To Pay Off Debt Once And For All

At this time of year especially, money seems to be the one topic that everyone is talking about – but usually not for the right reasons.  Once all the highs from a festive period of good living and spending has gone, the credit card bills are starting to arrive and if you feel lost in a sea of debt, I know exactly how you feel.

Roughly, according to the latest figures published by the Money Charity, the total value of outstanding personal debt in the UK has reached £1.576 trillion, with the average debt per person of £8k.

If you are struggling with not knowing how to cope under the financial struggle and heartache of debt from Christmas or bad choices in general with your money, please know there is brighter future that you can face it head on and change your money mindset and habits for good.

The tricky part of debt is that when you sign up for it you don’t really imagine what you are signing up for.  When the bank manager tells you it is 25 years on a mortgage, you only really listen to the “monthly amount” and then switch off.

But as we all know, the bank and credit card companies make their money from you by hoping you will have that debt for as long as possible, so they can keep charging interest payments to the amount outstanding.

It is well-known that if you only made the suggested minimum payments on credit cards, it might even take you up to 25-30 years to pay off the original one time debt which is truly insane.


What was our debt story?

My husband arrived into our relationship with approximately £22k worth of credit card debt from a previous relationship that he took in his name. The usual story of letting luxuries and purchases become the norm, with the knowledge that one day “it will be sorted”. Throw in some times of unemployment and the amount added up to quite a bit.

He had this debt in various forms most of his adult life, and like most people not something he would share with people. The usual strategy of making the minimum payments and one day paying them off was his mindset and goal – but as we know all too well that never happens, or at least you are never the winner only paying much more in interest for the delay process.

My past experience of money management in adult life was the opposite – my only debt had been a mortgage on my home, and I never feared my credit card statement in the post as it was always paid off in full every month.  I bought only what we had money for, and had around 6 months of living expenses saved up for a rainy day just in case.

When I learned of the debt now within our relationship even all those years ago, it consumed me with dread and paralysed me. Dread that how could we give up money each month; how much could we afford to give up without comprising on lifestyle; how could we ever pay back such a large amount – all the usual circle of endless worry and stress questions that everyone feels around debt.

However, I knew we had to do something to make it disappear as only when we are debt free could we truly be able to have financial freedom and security to do whatever we wanted with our hard earned money and really design the life we want to lead.

The goal of financial freedom is too powerful not to want to take action, even in little baby steps.  And that is the key to everything you want to achieve in life – turn up each day and do one thing, one thing only that moves you towards the direction you want to be in ultimately. Act and live the life you want now, and it will come into action.

If you want to be rich and use our money fully to fund experiences and life in the present, you have to start managing your money and using the same tips and tricks that the successfully rich people do and get rid of anything from your past such as debt.

And so we set up a plan.

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How did we tackle the debt?

A plan and collection of budgeting and financial future spreadsheet tools which I have famously nicknamed “AutoPilot Money System”, as once it is set up and in place we don’t need to worry about it, was the result of a concrete plan to get rid of this debt once and for all.

The first step in any process is being honest that we are completely responsible for the way our financial life looks right now, and then taking the full responsibility to resolve it.  Our actions and decisions got us into this situation, so it will be time to sacrifice for a short while to change our future.

And as a result of that exact plan, which I will share with you, the debt went completely and faster than we initially thought. To be exact, that same large amount of £22k was paid off within 3 years effectively giving us a pay rise and more money each month to do more fun things with!

Let me break down the exact steps we used to get rid of debt from our lives once and for all.


Step 1- We had to know exactly how much debt did we have in total?

To pay off the debt, and this works for all debts, you need to start by knowing exactly how much you are dealing with. For us, that involved my husband contacting all the credit card companies and asking for outstanding balances. The total came to just under £22k.

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Step 2 – We had to figure out how we were going to pay it off

Next comes the choice part.

Knowing the exact size of the debt that needed our immediate attention and who required payments, we could pay each one individually using a debt repayment model such as the Snowball or Avalanche method ideally.

The Snowball method is my personal favourite method as it allows you to feel the mind-set shift from overwhelm to happiness as you pay off your debts from the smallest to largest in order.   You start by writing down all your debts and full amounts due in order from smallest to largest.

You then commit to making the minimum payment on each debt, and throw all your money and effort at the smallest debt, regardless of the interest rate paid, gives you the satisfaction to know you are making a difference.

Imagine the effect similar to a snowball rolling around the ground to slowly get bigger and bigger in size.  Every time a debt is paid off in full, you move the total amount spent on debt to the next largest debt never dropping the total amount attacking debt every month until it is all gone.

The Avalanche method works in a similar way, however it is based on the interest rate as your order of debt to pay off, paying off the highest interest amount first so that you can get rid of the debts that are costing you the most the quickest.

You would do the same as before and order the debts from smallest to largest based on interest being paid each month, meet the minimum payments for all and throw extra money at the largest interest debt first.  When that is paid for fully, you move the move to the next debt and so on.

For us though, we had the option to apply for a five year loan with a  lower APR rate personal loan to cover the full amount due to every credit card, that would mean one payment moving forward and it would pay it all off collectively.

When we had the personal loan approved and funds received, we used the funds to pay off each of the outstanding credit cards directly and close them off right away.  However the end result was a loan still in place but having now just one payment in one place, the greatest mindset benefit for us was that I could track the outstanding amount very easily and it acted as motivation to clear it off faster.

It was also really easy to make over payments when we had funds to do so each month and that is just what we did.

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Step 3 – We met the minimum payment always, and then paid more on top

If you don’t have the same luxury as us to get a loan to pay off all the debts, or it doesn’t make financial sense to have a personal loan due to interest rates –you need to at least commit to the minimum payment for all your debts.  But, and I cannot stress this enough, you need to be aiming for more than the minimum payment each month without question by using the Snowball or Avalanche method.

You have got to be looking at your monthly spending like we did and squeeze every last penny towards the debt, and then look for new ways to bring money into your life to throw at it.  Sell whatever you can, learn a new skill – keep thinking outside the box for those money making ways to attack and get rid of your past money habits through the debt.

If you can only pay one debt with even a single £1 or $1 more – do that.  With our method of a personal loan, we didn’t have to worry about meeting the minimum thankfully but we could save money on interest on the loan if we choose to make over payments.

So although the set monthly amount for 5 years on our loan would mean the debt was gone in that time period, we decided to make over payments whenever our budget would allow.

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Step 4 – We found extra money to throw at the debt by budgeting…and on Autopilot

My husband’s past spending style needed a major change in patterns, as his old pattern meant he was overspending compared to his wage each month. The real reason for this being that money shared him his whole adult life, and the fear of looking at his current account balance was real.

He hated it and so avoided it like the plague. And over a large period of time that denial and lack of attention to something so important, I believe 7 or 8 years, overspending a little each month adds up and up and we were £22k looking to see when the madness will end.

I had never used a budget before, as I had always been ok with spending only what I had in the bank, but with the need to find money in as many places as possible to throw and close off the debt – it was time to set up a budget officially.

That is when I created after much searching and testing what would work for us, I created my own budgeting and financial freedom spreadsheet tools called the “AutoPilot Money Scheme”. The wonderful thing is this collection of spreadsheets to use on your own personal computer have helped now hundreds of other families pay off debt, save for their financial goals and plan for their future too! You can even find a copy to purchase for your own family here on my Etsy store.

Essentially it contains a budget spreadsheet method but smarter, as it builds in long & short term financial goals rather than just looking month to month allowing you to squeeze and look for all areas where your budget can allow for that debt to be attacked.

The reason it is autopilot and without stress is that although the first month might involve some extra hard work and effort to make sure it all works, by the third month you know it works and are confident in it achieving your goals.

My spreadsheet also has a section exclusively to help you know how best to pay off your debts using the Snowball or Avalanche method, working out when your exact “Debt free Date” will be based on your current money thrown at the debt – which is a massive motivational tool to help you really see how powerful your money can be once you put it to the right action in your life.

It even has a spreadsheet to show you how you are doing towards your savings or sinking funds against your ideal target amounts; and finally, how long it would take you to save towards total financial freedom of being able to live off the interest from your savings for life and not having to work if you didn’t want to!

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Step 5 – We budgeted all areas of life and evaluated it each month

The important thing to remember though is that at the end of each month, if there was any money left over in budgets I would move it straight to our loan to help in any small way achieve debt-free quicker.  This really was the small habit that changed our debt future, and helped to speed up the debt free date greatly for us!

By reviewing all our monthly spending budgets and if consistently we were under spending, I would then make the decision to up my contribution amount to the loan and then adjust other budgets accordingly.  Alternatively, if we were overspending on our budgets it was time to just make the minimum on the loan and see if I could be better in other areas next month instead.

It was important though never to sacrifice to pay off debt where possible – I would always make sure there was enough money for the essentials and some fun money, as we needed a life style that was liveable rather than miserable.

If I had ever reached a point where funds couldn’t stretch, and we even lived through nearly a year of my husband being unemployed during this three year time to pay off the loan early, the thought of having to work another part time job to keep everything afloat and on course was totally fine by me.  We were in control of how that debt came to be in place for the most part, so we had to solve it.

Our goal was to get to a state where we weren’t living paycheck to paycheck to live, but rather feel financial free by having no debts ideally and money to have fun and live the life we want with.

That is the purpose of working after all, to allow you to live life and a fun one with it. For us, over the three years where we have consistently overpaid on our loan till now that it is completely gone some 20 months early ahead of the time we hoped for.

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Step 6 – We got rid of anything not bringing a lot of joy!

When you are in debt, you need to look at your budget to really get clear on what brings joy to your life and what doesn’t.  Any spare cash that doesn’t bring joy needs to be brought back to your cash flow to throw at the debt, so that our future money is free to do whatever we want with it and live life fully.

We actually cut down our monthly satellite TV bill dramatically when we started our debt journey (we just didn’t miss it when we decided to give it up for a month for fun); gave up gym memberships; started working out at home and doing more free activities as a family together; and I have even learned how to plan our family food wiser and with less waste each week and month.

These small changes meant we saved roughly £150+ a month that could be thrown in addition to our loan monthly amount.

Likewise if you are facing debt, it is time to get clear on what you want your money to do for you moving forward.  Money has been your master when you have debt, but it is time to switch the power back to our hands to tell it what to do.

Consider shopping around for your food to see what brands really give you the healthiest lifestyle and make you feel like you are using your money wisely every week.  Consider giving up that expensive mobile bill for a pay as you go contract cheap model for even a short time if it gives you more money to play with to throw at your debt.

Look for as many ways to cut down your monthly bills by negotiating as much you can at the start of new contracts – every pound saved can have a better purpose if we choose it!


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What did I learn from my debt experience?

Having debt and financial commitments can seem at the time to be consuming and all you think about.  As a result of the pain and struggle we faced those years ago though, my experiences of paying it off and developing a smarter money mind-set has allowed me to help others get out of the same pain with strategies that actually work.

I’m very thankful now for the experience as it has allowed me to create a blog and YouTube channel to help others with their money, to help them create financial and time freedom as I am now creating for my own young family.

I have also just authored a book all about Money Mindset called “The Master Money Blueprint” which teaches the key principles that can change your money and financial future forever.  At the time, the debt seemed to be life restricting but I know that for everyone there is a way out of the struggle and the path ahead is so much brighter once we tackle it with all our mind and efforts.

As hard as it is at the time to accept, manage and deal with any form of debt, I’m very thankful for having this experience because I doubt I would have learned how to be financially savvy and gain knowledge of money management without feeling like we were at rock bottom and had no choice but to do something different.

I truly believe that when we learn to change our money mindset and habits, then our financial future automatically becomes one filled with abundance to design the life we really want using money as a tool to get that.

Whatever stage you are at in your debt or money journey, know that you can completely change your direction to the one you really want at any moment and it is absolutely possible to come out the other side stronger and smarter.

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More about the author:

Jennifer Kempson, aka Mamafurfur, is a 30-something  Scottish Working Mum with a passion to help others create the work life balance & lifestyle they wish with time & financial freedom, sharing Smarter spending, saving and lifestyle strategies.

Outside of her blog, she recently released her first book titled “The Master Money Mindset: How to Master your Money and Create a Powerful Money Mindset” sharing 26 timeless Money principles that will allow you to design and shape your future using money as the resource it should be, available on Amazon Kindle and Paperback now.You can also find Jennifer on her Mamafurfur Youtube channel.


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